Unresolved frustration breeds bitterness, and resentment, and loneliness, and disconnection .... And and and and nothing good!! When we are frustrated with our partners it is easy for this to escalate into negative thoughts about them as people, incorrect assumptions and unkind labels such as “you are so selfish”! I have found generalised superlatives such a “you always” and “you never” wedge a big space between us. Invariably one of us will be on the attack and the other on

Understanding is what is missing in most relationships. The reason partners complain to each other is because they are not getting their nee

Contrary to popular belief, I believe a good time to start therapy may be when your life is going relatively well! Therapy is often associated with crisis, on the brink, neurosis, and the final straw (and therapy is certainly important when you’re in that place), but therapy shouldn’t just be the cure... when it’s capable of possibly preventing the breakdown in the first place and maintaining your happy place. Seeing a Counsellor early on in your marriage, or better yet befor